There comes a time in every parent’s early days when the chances of sleeping longer than two hours at a time start to seem like a long-distant fantasy. One involving poolside vacations. And undisturbed naps in lounge chairs. In your fog of fatigue, you ask everyone you know, how—how?—do they manage to sleep for longer stretches? And then one mom friend mentions dream feeding.
What is dream feeding?
Dream feeding is the practice of gently rousing—without fully waking up—your baby to feed them right around the time you’re ready to head to bed. Because your baby is still half asleep, theoretically it’s easy to put them back in the crib where they quickly settle again into a sound sleep. The overall idea is that if your baby gets a snack before you turn in for the night, you and your little one will be able to sleep for a longer length of time. Baby gets fed, baby sleeps, you get more sleep, wins all around. Right?
Yes and no—and much of that depends on what feels good to you. So…
Is dream feeding right for you?
You’ve nodded off during Saltburn for the third time; time to call it a night. The idea of waking up your sweet—and loud—little wonder now when you can barely get into your pjs…. What if it takes another hour to get them asleep again? Dream feeding? Or some form of medieval torture? Here are some important details to help you decide:
The benefits:
- The overall idea of dream feeding is that it lets you sync up your baby’s need-to-eat cycles with your bedtime which, in the best of worlds, results in more sleep for you. Though that concept may be more myth than fact; see below.
- If you’re breastfeeding, dream feeding offers another opportunity to increase your milk supply.
- It can be a chance to give your baby extra calories, if that’s needed (if your doctor recommends it).
The drawbacks:
- Research has shown that dream feeding may not be that effective. In a 2021 study conducted by Nanit Lab, infants who were dream fed slept only marginally longer at night than infants who were not, about 5 minutes longer per night. And when comparing the amount of times babies woke up during the night and parents visited their baby’s crib, there was no difference between dream fed and non-dream-fed babies.
- Dream feeding can interrupt a baby's deep sleep and make it hard for Baby to settle back down. During the Nanit Lab study, 40 percent of parents stopped dream feeding because they felt like it wasn’t helping. PRO TIP: A tool like Nanit can help parents learn their baby’s sleep patterns.
- Dream feeding, if practiced, is really mainly for very young babies, 2 to 4 months. Babies younger than 2 months will likely need to be fed every two to three hours anyway, and will be waking up more often regardless of when you feed them. Most older babies no longer need to feed during the night. More than half of the parents in the Nanit Lab study (58 percent) stopped dream feeding once they felt their baby was sleeping better at night.
To sum up: Whether or not to dream feed comes down to personal choice: Do you feel like the practice helps you and your family? Great! Prefer not to add another to-do to your already full parenting plate? Also great! (And know that, scientifically speaking, it’s probably not making much of a difference anyway).
If you are curious to try out dream feeding, these tips can help it go more smoothly.
How to dream feed
Here’s what to do if you’d like to try dream feeding:
- Two to three hours after Baby’s bedtime, look for signs that your baby might be hungry or starting to rouse from deeper sleep (starting to stir or move more, making sucking motions). Nanit is a great assistant in these efforts.
- Go to crib and pick Baby up. Don’t move your baby too much (for example, stay in the nursery if you can rather than walking into a different room) and keep the environment as quiet and calm as possible. Also, minimize interactions with your baby. The goal here is for Baby to stay sleepy and mellow.
- A good general guideline for feeding amount: Nurse five to 10 minutes per side if breastfeeding, or if using a bottle, try 4 to 6 ounces of formula. Start on the shorter/lower amount and see if your baby seems satisfied/stays asleep until their next usual feeding. You can always increase the amount as needed.
- Once your baby’s had enough to eat, gently place them back into the crib and let them fall back asleep. Again, avoid talking to or engaging with your baby at this point. (You don’t want to fully wake them up.)
When can I stop dream feeding?
Dream feedings are sometimes the last to go during night weaning. As your baby reaches 6 months of age, most babies can go without overnight feedings altogether. Once your baby’s feeding schedule has fully adjusted to a normal daytime eating schedule, you can gradually eliminate dream feeds. 4 to 6 months old is generally the ideal time to stop.
What if my baby’s still waking up?
If your baby is still waking up overnight and you feel unsure about whether dream feeding could be helping, this Cleveland Clinic podcast about healthy sleep habits for kids will be helpful!
Need more tips?
Nanit can help! You can create a personalized sleep schedule with insights from sleep experts right in the app.
And remember: You’re not alone in this!
