These Expert Tips Will Help You Become a More Confident Parent

These Expert Tips Will Help You Become a More Confident Parent

What makes parents more confident about their parenting skills? And what makes that confidence plummet? See what we’ve learned.

At Nanit, we regularly study a wide range of parenting topics including sleep, feeding, teething, postpartum wellness, maternal and paternal leave, sex health and more. Through this research important trends have emerged. One trend that we’ve been seeing come up again and again: How confident parents feel, and what makes parents feel more—or less—confident.

As we started to dig deeper into the topic, we saw confidence as a trend not just in our own research but in the larger world as well. If you’ve found yourself googling these questions at 3am, you’re not alone: 

  • How can I be a confident parent? 
  • Why is confidence important in parenting? 
  • Which parenting style is best for self-esteem?
  • How do parents affect your confidence?

In our Nanit Lab research, several recurring themes appear to have significant influence on how confident parents feel. To highlight these important findings in the hopes that they might open up solutions for families and inspire change and progress, we created our recent report, The State of Parental Confidence 2024

“We wanted to understand parental confidence more and understand how we could improve it,” says Dr. Natalie Barnett, VP of Clinical Research at Nanit. “How do we make parents feel even more confident? The goal is to help them feel supported and come from a place that is as nonjudgmental as possible. We want to consistently provide science-backed tips, recommendations and information so parents can absorb as much info as possible and make decisions for their families in a confident way.” 

Find out what we learned.

Pillars of Parental Confidence

As parents, you want to feel like you know what you’re doing, strong and sturdy about your choices, and capable in your actions. But what makes you sometimes able to stay calm in the face of a toddler tantrum, and other times crumple over a missed nap? Our research revealed several common categories or issues that seem to play a big role in how confident a parent feels. These issues range from more personal ones—like how you think about and take care of yourself—to large-scale ones, systemic challenges and lack of support. And one connecting factor, that impacted confidence and parents’ wellbeing, across every category? Lack of sleep.

In order to improve parents’ overall well-being, we learned that it helps to pay attention to four main concerns:

Physical well-being

What it means: Physical well-being looks at how parents feel physically, including things like how much sleep you get, how well you’re able to heal and be supported postpartum, and how well you take care of yourself and take time for yourself.

PMADs or Postpartum Anxiety and Depression

What it means: PMAD can affect both moms and dads. In fact, 43 percent of the parents surveyed by Nanit expressed feeling anxious and/or depressed since becoming parents. Common PMAD symptoms are feeling anxious or panicky and having trouble sleeping. And dads are less likely than moms to notice their symptoms. “Dad’s lives change hugely after they become parents, but not many people talk about that,” says Dr. Natalie. “Dads aren’t encouraged in general to take parental leave in the way that moms are. Dads are expected to go about their lives as usual and it can be hard for them to ask for help.”

Self-Doubt

What it means: This creeps in for parents who are isolated or feel inexperienced and can come from comparing yourself to others or feeling pressure from others to be or do things in a certain way. “It can be very isolating,” says Dr. Natalie, “when you’re scrolling social media in the middle of night during a feeding, for example. You can wind up feeling very much alone. At Nanit, we want to provide a platform so people can be hearing from other parents and experts and understanding that our whole ecosystem is there to support them.”

Systemic Support

What it means: Some parents face uphill battles when dealing with issues like a lack of parental leave, adequate childcare, or other inequalities. From a recent study of Nanit parents, we see that moms are twice as likely to get no paid leave after having a baby as dads (20 percent versus. 10 percent), only 8 percent of parents are eligible for 20 or more weeks of leave and 93 percent of parents feel stressed about returning to work. Parents are worried about managing sleep (or the lack of it) and the chaos going back to work may bring to the family.

 

Nanit is dedicated to delivering high-quality, reliable content for our readers. Our Parent Confidently articles are crafted by experienced parenting contributors and are firmly rooted in data and research. To ensure the accuracy and relevance of the content, all articles undergo a rigorous review process by our team of parenting experts. Additionally, our wellness-related content receives further scrutiny from Nanit Lab, our think tank of scientists, engineers, physicians, academic experts, and thought leaders.

Our primary objective is to furnish readers with the most current, trustworthy, and actionable information concerning a host of parenting topics. We strive to empower our readers to make informed decisions by offering comprehensive and respected insights.

In pursuit of transparency and credibility, our articles incorporate credible third-party sources, peer-reviewed studies, and abstracts. These sources are directly linked within the text or provided at the bottom of the articles to grant readers easy access to the source material.

CONTRIBUTORS

Natalie Barnett, PhD serves as VP of Clinical Research at Nanit. Natalie initiated sleep research collaborations at Nanit and in her current role, Natalie oversees collaborations with researchers at hospitals and universities around the world who use the Nanit camera to better understand pediatric sleep and leads the internal sleep and development research programs at Nanit. Natalie holds a Ph.D. in Genetics from the University of New England in Australia and a Postgraduate Certificate in Pediatric Sleep Science from the University of Western Australia. Natalie was an Assistant Professor in the Neurogenetics Unit at NYU School of Medicine prior to joining Nanit. Natalie is also the voice of Nanit's science-backed, personalized sleep tips delivered to users throughout their baby's first few years.

Shambhavi Thakur serves as Clinical Research Data Analyst at Nanit. She holds a Masters degree in Health Informatics and Life Sciences. She oversees the research collaborations with various universities and analyzes sleep data for internal as well as external studies.

Dr. Maristella Lucchini serves as Senior Clinical Researcher at Nanit. In her role, Maristella works to secure grant funding in collaboration with Nanit’s university research partners and supports the development of the company’s research collaborations around the world. Previously, Maristella served as an Assistant Research Scientist in the Division of Developmental Neuroscience, Department of Psychiatry at Columbia University Irving Medical Center where she led projects across several cohorts focusing on sleep health for pregnant and postpartum women and their children. Maristella’s research focused on underserved communities and sleep health disparities in the perinatal period. During her years as a postdoctoral researcher at Columbia University Irving Medical Center in the Department of Psychiatry, Maristella was selected to participate in the American Academy of Sleep Medicine Young Investigator Research Forum. She holds a Ph.D. in Biomedical Engineering from Politecnico di Milano.

Mackenzie Sangster is on the Brand and Community team at Nanit. She supports content development and editing for Nanit’s Parent Confidently blog as well as other marketing initiatives. Outside of work, she enjoys spending time with her friends, cooking, being active, and using the Pro + Flex Duo to keep an eye on her fur-baby, Poppy!

Holly Hays is a contributor and writer for Nanit, channeling her years as a mama and former magazine editor to create fun, useful content for fellow busy, trying-to-do-their-best parents and caregivers. Holly has written for a wide range of brands and media outlets (Ergobaby, HGTV, Manhattan Toy Company, OXO), loves to cook and read mystery novels, and leans heavily on her two daughters to keep her up to date on all the latest slang.

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